Looking for Grandparents
Starting with the Gravesites in three cemeteries in Kansas City
|Led by my maternal first cousin Bill Garies and his wife Shiloh, my nephew David Shaughnessy and I visited the graves of six of my maternal ancestors: my great-grandfather Christian Ouker, in Union Cemetery in Kansas City; his wife and my great-grandmother, Frances Regenauer; their oldest daughter, my maternal grandmother, Helen Ouker Shepherd; her husband, my maternal grandfather, William Clifford Shepherd ("Cliff") in Old St.Mary's in Kansas City. I also visited the graves of paternal ancestors--Dad's father John A. Shannessy (as spelled on his gravestone) and mother Rose Butler--in Old St. John's Cemetery in Kansas City, Kansas. I never knew any of them, but, having seen their graves, I wanted to know more about these disparate families. Who were these people? Where had they come from? How did they end up in Kansas City, Missouri and Kansas? From photos, the internet, graves, a tape of my mother's and father's memories, family memories, research, contributions from genealogists, I have been gradually filling in my German, English, Irish. family tree.|
|Mother's Maternal Family from Germany:
The photo at the far right was taken in 1893 at the funeral in Cleveland of Barbara Schotthoefer Regenauer, mother of the six girls and one son pictured with their father George Michael Regenauer. Daughters include Anna, Gertrude, Frances, Helena, Margaret and Johanna. Son could be Gottlieb, (or Joseph or Ludwig or Matthew).
Oukers and Regenauers
The Regenauers setled in Cleveland, where they were listed in the 1880 census: George Regenauer 61, laborer, with his wife Barbara 59, Louis 30 laborer, Maggie 18 pants tailor, Ellen (Helena) 17 seamstress, and Matthew 15 laborer. Frances was not with them. She had already moved to Chula Missouri, near Chillicothe where she married Christian Ouker, born in northern Germany in 1850, a strong Lutheran, whereas she was a strong Catholic. They were married in Livingston, Missouri April 15, 1879, when he was 29 and she was 26. Some of Frances's siblings had remained in Cleveland and remained close. Her brother Gottlieb had a daughter whom he named Frances Regenauer (d. 1941) who married Tony Poelking. The Poelkings had five children, including spinsters Agnes and Mary, Mother's cousins, who came often to Kansas City, and made us laugh as they played the piano and sang rollicking German songs like Ach du lieber Augustin.
From Chula, Frances and Christian eventually moved to Kansas City, where he became a grocer. They had five children--Helen Ouker (my grandmother) in 1880, Hannah in 1881, Amelia (in Chillicothe) in 1883, Frank in 1884, and George F. in March 15, 1888. Christian Ouker built a "big 2-1/2 story house" on 1905 West Prospect place (1810 Jarboe, where the family were listed as living in the 1900 census) and bought or built two smaller houses on either side "to protect it." They always lived well, Mother said. George never knew his father, for Christian Ouker died in 1888, (according to his gravestone); however, Mother said his death occurred when Helen, his oldest child was 12, which would have been 1892.
1891 Cleveland Directory--George, Gottlieb, Louis, Matthew and his son Michael are all listed. Matthew lived near Gottlieb
Frances Garies with sons Herb and Leo and grand-daughter Frances Shepherd
| ||From England: Mother's paternal family--The Shepherds |
On September 20, 1899 Helen Ouker, 19, married William Clifford Shepherd, "Cliff", 30, of Jackson County, Missouri. born Sept. 22, 1869 in Crawford County, Illinois.
He was the son of Matthias Croy Shepherd (1828-1878) of Clinton Co., Ohio, and Angeline McGrew (1833-1926) of Green County, Indiana. ,
Matthias Croy was the son of Moses Shepherd (b. 1897 in Madison, Ky, d1886) of Clinton, Ohio, and Hannah Draper (b. 1801 Madison, Ky).
Moses was the son of Daniel Shepherd (b. 1757) and Chloe Burr (b. 1762 d. before 1852) See my Genealogy page more about Chloe Burr's ancestry
The McGrew Bible
The information I have of my grandfather William Clifford Shepherd came chiefly from the bible his mother, Angeline McGrew, kept, of her family history. It must have been she who passed on the information about the Shepherds. Aunt Meal (Amelia Daly) kept photos and passed them on to Jack Daly.) The Shepherd family came from New York. Daniel Shepherd (b. 1757) had married Chloe Burr (b. 1762-d. before 1852) of Fairfield Ct. in 1777 in Goshen Presbytarian Church, Orange, NY. ( I have written a separate account of Chloe Burr's ancestry, tracing Moses Shepherd's pedigree back to Charlemagne and before.) Daniel and Chloe had 8 children in Greenbriar County, Va, of whom 4 died in infancy as there are no death dates given. Daniel and Chloe moved to Madison, Ky and had four more children, of whom Moses Shepherd, my great, great grandfather, was the oldest and the longest surviving of all the children (1797-1886). Moses Shepherd married Hannah Draper ( b. 1801 in Madison, Ky) in Clinton, Ohio in 1816. So the Moses Shepherds were listed as from Clinton Co. Ohio.
Note: Shepherd was variously spelled "Shepard" and "Sheppard" by the family members.
|After 1900||Grandmother Garies' Family Grows|
|Mother's two grandmothers were strong, dominating, long-lived women. Angeline McGrew Shepherd had six children and lived to be 93 (1833-1926). Frances Regenauer Ouker-Garies had seven children living under her roof or nearby and would live to be 76.
None of Grandmother Garies' children seemed able to live far apart from her. Houses were important. Frances had her big house on 1810 Jarboe. Helen and Cliff Shepherd bought a house, "on the east side." (look up address in City Directory). Cliff Shepherd remains unknown to me, except that he left us his mother's "McGrew family bible," now in Kathleen Connor's possession. (Mother also wrote for me the dates on a sheet which I have.)
Mother was usually photographed alone or in family groups, with older people. Little Frances appears like a large doll plopped down in the center in family snapshots and formal pictures. She is dressed in white bouffant dresses and big white hairbows. In 1908?, she is sitting on the front porch of the house on Jarboe, surrounded by her grandmother Frances (55), and uncles Leo (10) and Herb (8). One picture, probably taken in 1911 or 1912, before Fred was born, shows her at 7 or 8 sitting with an old man with a white beard on the front porch of a two story home. The family's oldest and the youngest, the picture seems to say. Her father Cliff, of whom there are no known pictures, would have been 42 or 43, younger than the man in the picture. (His father had died in 1878.) Only John Garies was old enough-63 or 64. John died in 1913, the same year that Fred was born to Amelia. In another picture probably taken in 1913 nine year-old Frances is holding newborn Jack, while Leo (15) and Herb (13) stand beside her. Grandmother Garies then began appearing in photos with Fred or Jack. Even Hannah was photographed with Fred and the infant Jack. Mother must have welcomed Fred and Jack.
|Childhood with a mother always on the move|
I continue the story of
In spite of being
so devoted to her mother, Helen was still "restless," so in
1919, when Mother was 15, Helen the entrepreneur bought land in and near
Dallas, Texas and moved to a farm there. It is a family belief that Helen
at one time owned the land that SMU is now on. Frances was in high school,
so she stayed in Kansas City with her grandmother Frances, visiting Texas
in the summertime. Frances attended Manual High School around Prospect, and
learned typing and secretarial skills. (Later she made sure that we took
secretarial courses at Sarachon-Hooley.) She also liked to swim (and had
us take swimming lessons at Southwest High) and sew (and enrolled us in
sewing classes from Miss Pierce at ______High School). She began working after graduation and whenever we complained, she reminded us that she
had worked since she was 16. Her parents eventually moved back to Kansas City from Texas. Her sister Cleo was born either in
1917 (according to her tombstone) or in 1920 (Mother remembered she was sixteen when Cleo was born)
. Helen was 37 or 40.
Cleo came along too late to be a companion to Mother, who was already
into her teens. Cleo contracted rheumatic fever as a child and died young. The family
had a lot of sickness. William, who, in spite of his affliction, was
very bright and was close to Mother, went to a school for the deaf, where he learned to read lips.
He was trained as a draftsman and worked as such for Western Union, though
he had periodic weak spells and was hospitalized, owing to the "brain
|From Ireland: Dad's family, the Shaughnessys||
The Butler-Shaughnessy-Sullivan Family--
|How did they get to Kansas City?|
Part I: The O'Shaughnessys from Ireland
Rochester, New York (about 1835-1853)
John Shaughnessy's parents (my paternal great grandparents) Thomas (abt. 1802) and Bridget (Abt. 1806).were born in Ireland: They married about 1831 and must have come a few years afterward, for they show up in the 1840 census. Thomas "Shaunesey" appears as coming from Ireland with six children--1 boy and 5 girls..and living in Brighton, a village on the outskirts of Rochester in Monroe County, New York, on Lake Ontario. Helena (b. 1834 or 1836) was born in Ireland as the records say, but Michael O'Shaughnessy has unearthed records which show the rest of the children were born and baptized in the U.S. Daniel (b. 1836), Mary (b.1837), Jane (b. 1838), Rosana and Elizabeth (b. 1840) were all born in Rochester and baptized in St. Patrick's Cathedral in Rochester. James was born about 1843 and John (my grandfather) about 1845-6--(no record of baptism for either yet; Thomas was born in 1847 and baptized in St. Mary's in Rochester; George was born in 1850 and baptized at the church of the Immaculate Conception in Rochester. William was born about 1852, with no record of his baptism net.
The 1850 census (above) for Rochester, New York shows Daniel, James and the twins Rosa and Lizzie were in school. The four younger boys were at home. Both Thomas and Bridget were checked as illiterate, so the census takers took a guess at how they might spell their name--"Shaunesey" in 1840 and "Shanaly" in 1850. The census taker also mistakenly wrote that all the children before James were born in Ireland. (The boys probably added middle initials later, after they learned the names of the presidents and wanted to show they shared first names with some. ) Thomas is listed as a laborer as he was in the 1849 Rochester directory but as a teamster in the 1851 Rochester City directory. Helena was listed as working as a domestic in the 1849 directory. William H. was born in Rochester in 1852.
What made them decide to leave the shores of Lake Ontario in 1853 and head for the big town rising beyond all the Great Lakes? The Rochester Poor House cemetery shows four deaths of children in August and September of 1852 from cholera. Perhaps fear of that disease made them decide to heed the lure of better jobs further west. Or more likely, a relative was already there.
Thomas Shaughnessy immediately found work as a laborer in Chicago. He is listed as a laborer in the city directory for 1855-56, residing at 15th and State. He was the only Shaughnessy listed, but there were several O'Shaughnessys. In the 1856-57 directory a "Thomas Shaughenessy tinman" who had lived in Chicago for 3 yrs. (since 1853), was listed at Canal near Harrison, right next to the "O Shaughenessy, saloon-keeper," at Canal near Harrison, who had lived in Chicago for 13 yrs and who might have been the relative who invited Thomas to try his luck in Chicago. (That year, every Shaughnessy was given an extra "e" by the census-taker) . Perhaps Thomas worked for this long-established saloonkeeper relative. That year Bridget "O'Shaughenessy", who had a lived in Chicago for 3 yrs.(as Thomas's wife), was listed as living at State St. bt. 12th and "North." A look at the map from that time shows they would have lived in the midst of a number of railroad crossings, which the boys must have loved. .The family probably attended St. John's Church at 18th and Clark. Several of the daughters would be married there in the 1860s. Also in the 1856-57 directory Daniel Shaughnessey, in Chicago for 3 years, is listed working as a teamster.
From 1861-1864 the Civil War was a presence in their lives. The 23rd Illinois Infantry or "Irish Brigade" was specifically recruited from the Irish, as was the 90th Illinois Infantry or "Irish Legion", whose chaplain was Father Kelly, the pastor of the local Irish parish of St. James. The big army camp--Camp Douglas was in their neighborhood, at Douglas (35th) and Kankakee (now King Dr.) The oldest son Daniel (23) could not have volunteered, as he was needed to support the family. James (18) also would have been needed to work. John was 15 when the war started. He could very well have volunteered and become a water boy in the Civil War, as the family legend went. If he was with the 23rd, he would have gotten to Lexington, Missouri, very near Kansas City, and seen their celebrated defeat there at the hands of the Missouri State Guards and their reinforcements. http://civilwar.ilgenweb.net/history/023.html. He may have had his ambitions raised by that experience. He would later sculpt a bust of a Civil War admiral who was active in some of the same areas as the 23rd Illinois Infantry.
The two older sisters, Mary and Jane who were not living with the rest of the family were probably working as domestics for others and were also preparing to marry. Jane married Owen McMahon in January, 1864 at St. Mary of the Assumption church in Chicago. The McMahons later had six surviving children: Elizabeth (b.1866), William (b. 1870), James (b. 1872), Frederic (b. 1874), Anna (b. 1875), and Catherine (b. 1882).
Mary married John Keane in March, 1864, also in St. Mary's. They had no children.
Daniel had been working for the family even back in Rochester, and in 1865 he married Louisa McClain (b. Ireland 1833) and settled permanently in Chicago, working as a butcher. He became the Chicago patriarch of a steadily growing family, adding a new child almost every other year. 5 daughters--Lillian (1866-1945), Rosa (1867-1944), Louisa (1872-?), Alice (1873-1956) and Lucy 1879-1972), and three sons, Thomas (1874-?), Daniel (b. abt. 1881) and William (July 1883). Their residence was 255 Archer in 1866; 417 Archer in 1871, 151 Kossuth in 1880.
Finally, on May 11, 1870 also in Old St. John's Church, Elizabeth (Lizzie) was married to a Canadian Alexander Russell . They would have three sons--Francis W. (1871), George A. (1878) and Walter James (1880) and one daughter, Helena ("Lina") named for Helena.
By 1870, the census shows that the only Shaughnessys remaining at home with Bridget were her unmarried sons George (20, carpenter), James (27, butcher), John (25, carpenter), Thomas (23, a hammersmith for the Rock Island RR). William (18) was not working so not listed. Irish men traditionally married late because they had a hard time getting work, especially during the 1870s. Thomas was the only one who worked steadily at the Rock Island Railroad. The others: James, a butcher (28), John, a carpenter (26), and George also carpenter (21) hadn't found steady work, and were waiting for some opportunity to turn up. The 1870 Chicago city directory shows them all living 594 Wentworth, in Chicago .
By 1871, the year of the Great Chicago Fire, the Chicago directory shows only one son (William) still living with his mother, on Shurtleff Av between 32 and 33 (3200 S. Wells). Only the married families show living independently: Daniel and Louisa O'Shaughnessy were living in ward 6 at 417 Archer--2 males (himself and perhaps one of his brothers), 3 females (his wife and 2 young daughters, Lillian b. 1866 and Rosa b. 1867). Rosana and Joseph Hager had 2 boys, Francis S. b. 1861 and Walter J. b. 1864, and another female living with them at 46 Wisconsin Av. in Ward 16.
In 1874 William died (perhaps of TB?) in Chicago. His death prompted Bridget to buy a plot for 12 in Calvary Cemetery (along Lake Shore Drive, dividing Chicago from Evanston), Lot 49, Block 1, Section N. (Daryl Johannson has Bridget's deed, passed down to her through her great-grandmother, Alice Shaughnessy, who got it from Lizzie, who got it from Bridget). Bridget erected an imposing granite obelisk as a monument there for him and the family she expected to be buried there. She also moved the bones of Thomas out of the old and closed Lincoln Park cemetery. There must have been a big family funeral, for all the family were still living in Chicago. Thomas J. even added the O' back to his name (briefly).
In 1875, the Chicago directory shows Rosana and Joseph Hager and their sons Francis W. and Walter J.lived on 33rd and had their fruit market on 101 S. Water; Daniel (a butcher) and his growing family lived at 35th and Indiana. John McKinnel, a painter, lived with his wife Helena and their children on Shurtleff (Wells). Bridget probably moved in with them after William died.
The Shaughnessy boys had had trouble finding work in Chicago. Thomas J. may have resorted to claiming to be a decade older (in the 1880 census he claimed he was 43 when he was only 33) to keep working as a hammersmith with the Rock Island RR . His work took him to Kansas City where the Rock Island added a spur. In Kansas City, in 1870 at 23 (claiming to be 33), he met and in the Immaculate Conception Cathedral married thirty year-old Mary McLaughlin (b. Ireland 1840) . They were godparents at a baptism in the same Cathedral there in 1872, probably for friends of hers. Their first son Thomas J. Jr. was born in Kansas City and baptized in the Cathedral there on September 6, 1872. I have a suspicion that she was a widow with a little money, for they were able to purchase a permanent home at 917 Wyoming, in "West Kansas" (actually Missouri) as the area of the bottoms in between the Missouri and the Kansas River was known. That would be their residence for many years to come although they traveled during that time: their second son Dennis was born in California in 1876, and their daughter Laura was born in Chicago in 1878.
Other Shaughnessys Relocate to Kansas City
The rest of the family began to show up in Kansas City directories during the 1870s. Thomas was consistently there, working for different railroads, as a blacksmith in the 1877 directory, working for the Missouri River, Fort Scot and Gulf Rail Road. The four remaining unmarried Shaughnessy men followed the lead of Thomas and in the 1879 directory were all working together in K.C.I.W., the Kansas City Iron Works, a foundry associated with the railroads. George Shaughnessy, as a laborer; James, as a teamster; and John as a molder. (Perhaps John had already recognized in himself an interest in sculpture?)
1880s: Orphaned in Chicago
Back in Chicago tragedy would strike the Daniel's family in the 1880s. Bridget may have been staying with them to look after the younger children while Louisa was pregnant. Louisa died in giving birth to William in 1883 (she was only 37), at which time Daniel purchased a family plot in Calvary Cemetery (Lot 28, Block 1, Section K) for the family. Daniel looked to Bridget to help raise eight children. Bridget took over and assigned the older daughters Lillian (17) and Rosa (15), to look after Louisa (11), Thomas (9), Alice (6). Bridget took care of Lucy (4), Daniel (2), and newborn William. Daniel may have already been ill himself. He died in 1886, three years after Louisa, to the day, and was buried next to her in Lot 28, Block 1, Section K of Calvary Cemetery. He was 48, about the same age as his father Thomas when he died.
Daniel's Family Is Divided into two--Chicago and Kansas City.
What would happen to Daniel's children now? Bridget looked to Helena in Kansas City and together they decided that the family would have to be split up. Helena would take three of them with her when she returned to Kansas City from the funeral: Louisa (14), Daniel (5) and William (3). These children would grow up and think of Kansas City as their home. Bridget would live with her oldest daughter and care for them. Daniel's two oldest daughters, Lillian (Lily) (1866-1945) and Rosa (1867-1944) were marrying in Chicago and could take in the remaining children. Rosa had married William Deto in 1885. She took in Thomas (12) and Alice (13). Rosa would have her own son Robert in 1889 and would thus be raising three children. Lillian would look after the youngest daughter Lucy (7) and after marrying Corydon Lewis Ford in 1887, she probably thought of Lucy as her own daughter. Her own daughter Louise (named for her grandmother, Louisa McClain OShaughnessy) was born in 1889, then nine year-old Lucy probably looked on her as her baby sister. Of Daniel's 8 children, three children thus grew up in Kansas City thinking of it as their home while five remained in Chicago and formed a strong family there.
Helena takes over: the McKinnell Family Center in Kansas City
1888- a Year of Funerals
Good days were still ahead for Helena. After the death of her husband John, Helena sold the meat market (probably to my grandfather John (41) whose obituary would say he owned a meat market) and dry goods stores. Her son John T. went to work as a carpenter, while daughter Mary E. became a city clerk. The house at 222 N. James she kept but rented rooms there to support herself and others who needed her. Among her boarders was her brother-in-law William, who became a laborer, and of course, my grandfather, who, after living with her at least since 1880, finally moved out in 1890 at 44 to marry Rose Butler, but of them, more below.
Daniel's Descendants: Kansas City
Helena, the matriarch, died July 21, 1912 at 78. (The obituary says she was 70). . Her body was returned to be buried in Calvary in Chicago with her husband, John. Her obituary in the Kansas City Star called her a "pioneer resident on the Kansas side." Her death left a gap in many lives, especially William's. Unable to look after his son, he turned George over to an orphanage in Kansas City, to be raised by the Sisters of Charity. then returned to Chicago to live with his sister Rosa. . After her death in 1944, she was buried in the Hager family plot, and William disappeared. His son George grew up in the orphanage and eventually prospered and married Lynn Herbert. His line continues. He has a grandson--Michael Brian O'Shaughnessy who has been so helpful in this search for records and reasons.
Helena's family line continues through the descendants of Helena's daughter Louisa, "Lulu," who married Roy W. Irvine in 1903. They had two children. One son Roy Bernard who married Agnes P. Bronson. They had a daughter Helen (b. 1937), who married a Mr. Mosher and had twin boys. The other son Raymond A. Irvine had a daughter Lida Lou, who lives in Arizona and has two children, John Douglass and Kathrine. Lida has helped me fill out Helena's line.
Daniel's Descendants: Chicago
Lillian, or Lily, Ford who had taken Lucy in as a child and later as a widow, saw her daughter Louise marry John I. Cochennett around 1917, and their daugher Mary Louise was born in 1918. She married a Carney and had two daughters Patricia and Joan. Mary Louise buried her mother in 1945 and her father in 1966 in Rosa Hager's plot in Calvary (probably with the consent of her Hager cousins who were all in Kansas City by then). Lily's husband Corydon was buried next to her in 1953. Mary Louise and John Cochenett were buried also in the Hager's plot, where they put up the stone with Ford on it. A little stone nearby marks the grave as originally the Hagers.
Alice, who had lived with older sister Rosa until she married William Robeson in 1896, had a daughter Louise Robeson. who married Wilson A. Smith. William Robeson died in 1935 and Alice chose to bury him with Bridget and Thomas in the Bridget's family plot. In the same plot would be buried Alice herself, who died in Kenner Hospital, LA. in 1956. Her daughter Louise and her daughter Patricia moved to Texas, but buried Alice in Bridget's plot as she must have asked. Alice received Rosa's papers, including the affidavit, and passed them on to daughter Louise, who passed them on eventually to Daryl Johannson.
Thomas Shaughnessy's line in Kansas City
Rosa Hager's Descendants Move to Kansas City
1849 Rochester directory showing a Dennis Shaughnessy, and a Helen Shaughnessy, domestic. (Age 15)
1850s - 1870s
Headstone, Mary McLaughlin Shaughnessy,Kansas City Old St. John's.
Part II - John A. Shaughnessy's Descendants
John Adams Shaughnessy marries Rose T. Butler My grandfather, John Adams Shaughnessy, was truly a self-made man. Since he had little education aside from elementary school, he had to find his own way, starting in 1859 when he was only 13, working as a laborer in Chicago. Legend has it that he was a water carrier in the Civil War (at 15-19 yrs). None of the children were listed in the Chicago directory during that time. By 1866, still in Chicago, he was a butcher (Chicago,1866 at 20 yrs). Then when the family had to move to Kansas City, he found a job with his brothers in a foundry, where he worked as a molder (1879 at 33 yrs). Somehow he found his way back into the meat-packing business and was listed as a stock yard owner (KC KS, 1880), but also a realtor. Yet in 1883, unaccountably , he was a laborer again. Then in 1885, he was a meat packer , where he found himself in an area he knew. Working at the stock yards in Kansas City , he drew attention to himself by his knowledge of cattle and was appointed an inspector, where, according to an article in the Kansas City Star, he "created a sensation by killing large numbers of 'big jaw' cattle. His action at that time was unprecedented and the owners of the cattle were indignant. Frequently the inspector’s life was threatened but he kept on his course. The position of inspector, which at that time was wholly an honorary one [$100], soon became an important one, for in recognition of Mr Shaughnessy’s service, the city of Kansas City, Kas fixed his salary at $1000 per annum, the city of Kansas City, Mo gave him $600 per annum and the state of Kansas made an appropriation of $300 per annum. The action which Mr. Shaughnessy took at that time against the “big jaw” cattle finally led to the appointing of government meat inspectors, stock examiners and microscopists." (KC Star, Dec. 7, 1902) With income assured, he gave himself over to his avocation and became a sculptor , giving that as his occupation in 1890 and 1900 and gaining some local fame . Since it took him a so long to get up the ladder of success, it is no surprise that it should take him a long time to get married. It was not until he was 44 and secure as the chief meat inspector that he finally settled down. On February 11, 1890 John and Rose T. Butler were married at St. Bridget's Church in Kansas City, Ks. Their marriage certificate says he was 40 and she was 26, but he was probably 46. He gave his occupation not as a meat inspector but as sculptor. His bust of the Civil War Admiral Schley (at right) is in the Smithsonian. The Butlers
I believe the reason Rose at 26 wanted to marry John at 44 probably had to do with the fact that she was looking for someone settled, with a steady income, as John by then had. Children of John and Rose Shaughnessy
Wm J. Sullivan, (b. 1875 in Ireland, immigrated 1889), was ten years Rose's junior, and about 25 years younger than John Shaughnessy. His wife Susan Lappin had died in childbirth in 1903, the same year John Shaughnessy died. He was a packing house foreman with his own home, and three children who needed looking after--Perhaps they attended St. Mary's Church together, for they both lived west of the river--she at 16 N. 8th and he at 992 N. Tenny, only a few blocks apart. Mr. Sullivan may have recognized that Rose was good at looking after families. By 1805, William and Rose were married. She then raised his three children--Robert (1893-1967), Nell (1896-1983) and Andrew (1899-1950)--as her own--seven children altogether.
Part III Shaughnessy-Shepherd marriage
A prolonged courtship
After graduation from Notre Dame in 1922, Dad went to work for Bob Gornall and continued living 928 Tenney Ave in Kansas City, Kansas with his stepfather. He met Frances Shepherd at a Halloween party, after which they began dating regularly on Wednesday nights. He had graduated from Notre Dame in 1922, . The courtship went on and on.
Mother might have hoped that after being separated from her and expressing longing to see her, he would have gotten around to proposing marriage, but no, the courtship went on for three more years.
Dad set about getting started in his career, joining the firm of Robert Gornall in 1925. In 1927 Dad was again writing her at 1235 E. 84th St. in Cleveland where she had gone to visit her relatives, probably Agnes and Mary Poelking. I wonder if she made that visit--which he teases her that he hopes she doesn't enjoy, especially if there are young men present-- to prod him into proposing,
They finally did marry September 11 of 1928 when she was 24 and Dad was 31. She used to tell us that it was the unhappiest day of her life, that none of his sisters had come to the wedding. We wondered why. Later we discovered that the wedding had taken place at St. Benedict's Abbey in Atchison, Kansas, so that Malachy could marry them. Atchison was a good drive from Kansas City. In 1928 people might be excused from making the effort to drive "all that way." And why were there no pictures of the wedding? Who let her down there? Her mother? Her mother's only gift was a silver-plated pitcher. Perhaps she should have taken consolation in the large family that she was joining--the Butler-Sullivan-Shaughnessy clan. (Someone sent her $5 at 5746 Harrison--Aunt Hannah's--signing it only "Butler"-- Harry T. Burns?-- welcoming his new niece into the family.)
The Shaughnessy Family
|Four Children Born in the Depression|
was fortunate for Mother that she was married and was looking forward
to her own family by the late twenties, for her exclusive circle of important
people began thinning out. In 1929 her grandmother Frances Regenauer died
(at 76). Mother was no doubt envious when "Uncle" Leo Garies
(only a few years her senior) and his wife Marie (Kellerman) had a daughter
Mary in 1928 (delivered by Frank Cave). Finally I was born in 1931. Kathleen
was born in 1932, Joe in 1934 and Carol in 1936.
The 1930's were bad
times to be born. Not only was the world in a depression, but we four
Shaughnessy children seemed to be forever going to funerals. In 1933 Cleo,
who had rheumatic fever in childhood, died of a heart attack. Mother said, "Kathleen was born by then." (Replacements were arriving.) Then
William, who had periodic weak spells and was in the hospital from his
childhood meningitis, died in 1937, at 35. Joe-the "Baby Jesus" had been born several years before. (No wonder Mother doted on him, and
was devastated at his early death as well.) I remember talking with William
in Aunt Hannah's basement when I was perhaps five, and feeling helpless
and awkward because of his deafness. Cliff Shepherd, her father--an unseen
figure in our lives--died in 1937.
|A New Home|
Dad designed this house at 440 East 65th, in KC, and. lived there from 1938 to 1955.
Thoughts of building
a home were out of the question in the depression, but owning real estate
had always been important to the family, from Christian Ouker and Frances
Regenauer on, and Mother no doubt lobbied for a house of her own. Helen
Shepherd had bought several properties in Missouri and in Texas, which
were left Mother in her will. Even Aunt Hannah had bought property in
Texas. Uncle George, who never married, and had become the head of the
family after Grandmother Garies death, advised his sisters financially,
perhaps. Each January he drove Hannah down to Texas in his green Franklin,
to look at her property. He was the executor of Helen's estate. From her
mother's death, Mother received some rental property, a farm in Clever,
Missouri (with a crop of walnuts) and the farm in Texas. Mother claimed
she, not Dad, had brought money into the family. In the late thirties
we moved into a new Georgian Colonial house on 65th and Cherry, which
Dad designed (he had done his thesis at Notre Dame on Colonial Architecture).and
which cost all of $13,000. Perhaps Mother contributed to it financially,
although she never claimed that, but she was the reason why they had real
estate and an apartment building.
More about Dad's Sisters and our family
Our Cousins on Dad's side
We were close to Bud Johnson and did not get to know the Neugebauers for some reason.
Party in our "Rec Room" at 440 East 65th, playing ping pong with our Spellman cousins-Tom, Jack, Bill, Jim Spellman, and Eileen; our neighbors the Schweigers--Bob, Dick and Helen; the four of us; and of course our dog Robin.
|The Daly's Influence|
No neighbors could compete with my cousins, Jack and Fred Daly, in my opinion. . Jack and Fred had gone off to join the Jesuits about the time we were infants. (Aunt Meal had always been active in the Jesuit Guild at St. Francis parish.) Growing up in this family with two seminarians, we thought there was no one like the Jesuits. When Jack and Fred came home, we would all get together at Meal's, or they would come over to our new house on Cherry, eagerly awaited by all, especially me, and we would all eat, play and take pictures. They seemed to know everything. They inspired my imagination. Fred was more dogmatic. It was he who told me about the glories of the Jesuits-they were the "company of Jesus" i.e., soldiers; their general was Jesus himself, so they reported not to any bishops but directly to the Pope. They had been suppressed in all the European countries, he boasted. How that was a mark of privilege I didn't understand, but it must be so. Jack was the more playful brother. He had been "little Buttercup" in a college production of Pinafore, and would mince about singing "I'm called Little Buttercup." To him life was not a battle, as Fred made me think, but a game, and he was ready to be silly. We have a picture of him running around our front yard with a football, wearing a girl's scarf around his head. The Dalys embodied an attitude to life for me. They were not only fun, they were learned, and they flattered us by treating us as adult.. They asked challenging questions to which I, as the oldest, had to come up with something. There was a tradition of reading in our family; Mother was a reader. She tended to put Dad down, though, saying later that the only book he ever read through was the biography of Theodore Hesburgh.
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Jack and Fred Daly
Barbara Butler sent me this picture of Dad's family at Bud and Charlotte (Baum) Johnson's wedding Feb. 8, 1950 taken in the Baum's basement in Springfield, Missouri.
Dad and his sisters: from the left: Nell Neugebauer, Marguerite Crabtree, Ruth Williams in the 50's at 6445 Seneca, Shawnee Mission, KS, where they moved in 1955.
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